Hi Blog Family,
It's been a minute since I've blogged and
let me just say that time waits for no one!!!! It's been a busy road but
I'm grateful! A lot of times I blog about my personal life or
conversations that I have. Often times, I blog about life in general... I
talk to a lot of people on a daily basis and attempt to offer encouragement or
hope in dire straits or hopeless situations and that can be hard when
people have been beat down or felt defeated for so long! There is a psychological phrase called
classical conditioning and it basically exposes the basis of some
behaviors. The concept of classical
conditioning is that you learn behavior based off of association. Classic example is feeding a pet. If the owner rings a bell every time the pet
is about to get fed and then presents food, then it is suggested that the pet
will issue the same behavioral response at the sound of the bell that he would
issue at the presenting of food even if food is not presented. Why?
Because the pet has been conditioned to believe that the bell means that
it’s time to eat! Therefore, to
condition the pet, to train the pet, you utilize expectations in order to get a
required response. The problem is not the conditioning because is
it normal for us to become educated, taught, instructed or guided. However, the problem comes when the trainer
no longer meets our expectations! The game
changes when you are left with a condition, but unfulfilled expectations. It hurts a bit more when you’ve lost what
meant the most to you but you find yourself still reaching out for it! It’s hard to pick up the pieces when you’re
left loving someone that no longer loves you back! It’s a different story when you keep playing
with my emotions but with no real intent of committing. What
do you do when you have broken and unfulfilled expectations that leave
you empty and alone?
Beloved, you will have moments in life when your expectations won’t
be fulfilled and what you expected to happen may not be reality. However, I’m reminded of a scripture that
says “Be not conformed to this world, but be ye transformed by the renewing of
your mind” – Romans 12:2… In other words, it’s not necessary for you to conform
to what others are doing.. It is true
that every now and then you have to take inventory of your mind and renew it to
ensure that your language isn’t moving forward while your mind is parked and
stuck! I truly believe this happens a
lot to us. We have expectations of others based off of their behavior or
promises. However, when they don’t meet
them, it leaves us offended! Save
yourself trouble and time, let people be who they are and when they show you
who they are, believe them! Secondly,
learn how to let go and move on! No
person or situation deserves enough energy or attention to where it stops you
and your life! Last but not least, learn
the lesson! You can go through change
after change, but honey you have to learn the lesson! Take away the nugget that you need to ensure
that you don’t have to make this pit stop again… And with all diligence,
remember this: Having broken and unfulfilled
expectations does not mean that you are broken and unfulfilled! It just means that you are the perfect
candidate for being renewed!
Love ya!